Counselling – Menfulness

Counselling - Our Partnership with Serendipity

Look lads, we are here for you. To laugh, to vent, to talk. But we’re all a work in progress and we recognise there can come a point where a little more help is needed and there’s absolutely no shame in that.

We are really proud to be able to offer men in York and Scarborough some professional counselling through a wonderful partnership with Serendipity. These sessions are made affordable to you, whatever your budget. If you’d like to pay it forward for someone else’s counselling sessions you can do so here.

We’ve already connected hundreds of blokes with counselling and the response has been phenomenal with over 96% saying they have experienced positive change or maintained stable wellbeing (more info on the blog below).

Remember, this is not a crisis service, it’s professional support to help get you over a hurdle or into a better mindset – If you’re worried you might be in crisis then please contact relevant services.

So, funds aren’t a barrier, and you won’t find any judgement here, so now all you have to do is reach out.

(We cannot call individuals directly to arrange counselling. If you are supporting someone then you must leave an email address for us to send a counselling referral form to. You will then be contacted by Serendipity to arrange your sessions)

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The Menfulness logo

The back story to the Menfulness logo, is that there’s always at least one side which is hidden on a cube.

This is the same with us men who have found it difficult to show our vulnerable side, but that doesn’t mean it’s not there.

We just need the right environment to learn how to reveal our more complex emotions so we can become the fullest versions of ourselves.

That’s what Menfulness means to us.

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A few words from Sinead at Serendipity…

We are proud to have worked together with Menfulness to provide funded counselling places to support men’s mental health.

The guys at Menfulness offer a social inclusion programme which offers activities such as social circuits, football, running and they even have an allotment. They bring men together to socialise, exercise, enjoy themselves, talk and let off steam in a non-judging, friendly and supportive environment. They recognised that, on average, for every 10 guys who attended an activity there was 1 who needed professional mental health support that they could not provide. That’s where Serendipity Counselling comes in.

Serendipity has provided hundreds of hours of counselling for Menfulness. All Menfulness referrals report meaningful positive change and referrals from partners in the community report over 95% experiencing meaningful positive change or maintaining stable wellbeing.

We know the main factors leading men to access therapy as; advice from their partners, GP or a trusted source. Menfulness are that trusted and respected source. The way they use their own life experiences and open-ness about their counselling has broken down barriers to accessing help within their client group. Around a third of men have been found not to have accessed care at all without these influences which suggests that it is difficult for men to access support of their own volition. Once in therapy it was found that the male clients would be more likely to seek help in the future of their own volition. This may mean that clients with experience of previous therapy are more open to future therapy.

The impact of not seeking help can be detrimental to society and the individual. Male suicide is higher than female suicide in almost all countries across the world. In the UK suicide rates in men have been rising and young men are considered to be a particular risk. Areas identified as needing work to support the reduction of these rates are prevention interventions, service provision and awareness. Emphasis on where these areas of support come from is an important aspect, identifying a need for trusted individuals and informal settings. This type of carefully thought-out approach to providing support aims to encouraging help seeking whilst taking into consideration barriers such as masculine traits of difficulty in seeking help.

We are proud of the work we have done and would like to thank those who have supported us over the year. Jo Kent, Humber Coast and Vale NHS Foundation Trust, Andy Chapman, Suicide Prevention Lead, City of York, York St John, Teeside, Leeds Beckett and Derby Universities for their counselling, psychotherapy and psycholgy PhD and MA/PGDip placement students.

Sinead Tingley

Director and Lead Counsellor

Serendipity Counselling

Jack Woodhams

Menfulness Co-Founder